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Are we fucking or having sex?

Hi, I am watching a series and above is the title of one of the episodes. It made me think really deep. Is there a difference? Whether you are fucking or just having sex? How do you describe fucking? and how do you describe having sex?

Are you making love if….you’re doing it on a heart-shaped bed covered in rose petals.

Are you fucking if….you’re doing it in a bathroom stall at a bar.

Are you making love if….you’re  doing it to the slow romantic sex music, am sure everyone has the kind of music they love when getting it on.

Are you fucking if….You’re doing it to Pitbull’s music.

Okay Okay, I’ll admit it…I just sort made these up. But they’re are mostly true.

I’d say, most people likely look at fucking as completely void of emotion, while making love involves, you know, love. However, i think it is possible to fuck someone you are in love with and it will be awesome. It is possible to make love to someone you are not in love with but only if you are high on weed or ecstasy and it is possible for one person to be making love while the other is fucking, usually the one making love does not realize he/she is being fucked by the other.

Take, for example, from the series am watching, a web series, John who plays an impossibly loveable dickweed, is most definetly fucking Kristen. But Kristen is just having sex with him. She’s not in love with him and doesn’t even seem to be enjoying herself, but he’s hot and having sex with him is better than staying home watching movies. She keeps fucking different men to find the romance she’s looking for, someone who will literally take her breathe away whether it will be fucking, making love or having sex. Hope she does by the end of the series, can’t wait. Maybe she will help me discover the truth on this one.

Most women think that making love usually means doing it slowly and with eye contact.Though I must say,I personally feel more connecton when there is eye contact. But someone could be looking you straight in the eye while slowly fucking you brains out. That sounds kinda hot. And some men think, fucking- you just wanna get straight to the business. Drop your pants and her pants and start banging. Until both the spot, zip up and peace out and for sex- you take it slower, foreplay, rub a little and then get down to business and some foreplay afterwards also…lay there…and all that cheesy other stuff.

Is this true?

Well from my experience on both ways, I say whether you’re fucking or making love or having sex, lies in the mind of the fucker or love-maker or sex-haver. You’re fucking if you think you are fucking and you’re making love if you think you’re making love. Speed, location and surroundng smells don’t matter.

According to Kristen, in the series, she said, that she believes ‘making love’ was invented by pastors and church to make the act of intercourse sound pure – Is that true? Go figure.

My advice

If your partner is going to feel more special if you look them in the eyes and grind in slowmo, then why not do it all the time? If she likes it slow, do it slow sometimes. And if he likes it fast, do it fast sometimes. It’s all about give and take when it comes to sex. Who gives a crap what you call it? Whether you do it in the car, at the movies , on the couch or on the heart-shaped bed. Whatever position you want, the dirty talks, it’s all in your mind.Talk to your partner how you love it and that is excatly what they will give you.

Tell me what you consider? Making love Vs fucking? Is there a difference?

Enjoy this one too.

 

 

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7 thoughts on “Are we fucking or having sex?

  1. I think it all depends on the person and the situation. When it comes to someone you feel you have a deep connection with, love and trust, I’d call it making love. To me, fucking is something you do with a one-night-stand…with someone’s whose name you don’t bother to learn. Sex, I think, is whatever falls between the two.

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