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Sponsors/Sugar Daddies are killing a generation.

This article was shared on a what’s app group am in and I thought I should share as my Motivational Monday to the ladies and also for parents and students. Some refers to them as sponsors or sugar-daddies but they are killing our generation. 

THIS IS NOT MY STORY

After classes on a Friday me and my friends had gone to a popular joint in Westlands. Four older gentlemen came over to our table and offered us drinks (proper drinks – not the drinks we were used to). We agreed and over the next 2 months it was play and fun. They would invite us to the hotels and have fun with us. Pay us well which I now know is prostitution.

The guy I landed on was nothing short of rich and he gave me pocket money unlike my dad who gave me $40 a month, he would give me $200 ever two weeks. I could get all the shoes and clothes I wanted. I was lucky enough to move from the hostels near Chiromo to a one bedroom in Parklands. 

At this point my boyfriend who was in JKUAT University and his small credit gifts meant nothing. All the time he visited me, he bought me a bag of chips and cheap bracelet’s and once in a while I would get phone credit worth Ksh 100 compared to the Ksh. 2000 phone credit and a trip to coast with a new one bedroom house.This University ‘bae’ had to go. He was not at my level anymore. The decision came hard because dating someone for 2 years and dropping them without and explanation is hard but once you taste the good money nothing can stop you.

My friends had noticed the changes; missed classes, empty hostel room and as all good friends they told me to take care of myself.

After 9 months of happiness, the guy changed. He would only see me on weekends or send his driver to pick me up. His driver was a kind guy and through him I learned the hard truth. My new man was married and had a daughter my age, apparently I was not the only girl the driver would pick up. He and his friends from the club had been doing the routine around Langata and Westlands where evidently all university girls stream to over the weekends.

I was angry at myself but then again the 42′ inch Samsung TV was delivered to my place the following Monday with an apology from my ‘hubby’. As I had grown to know him, to say I was stupid and blind would be an understatement.

Not long after November 6th, I got ill and was admitted to hospital. It was nothing major, the doctors said I needed fluids and I was discharged. The medication prescribed worked against me and I got worse. So ‘My hubby’ sent me some cash and his driver dropped me at Nairobi Hospital, they did some tests and the results were nothing short of dismantling. I was 2 months pregnant and HIV positive

After breaking the news to the guy he took off and said I had been seeing someone else. The following day, 8 guys showed up at my house with a moving truck, at this point you realize there is no difference between you and a visitor. Out went my beautiful TV, Couch, Queen Size Bed, my tables and carpets. I was left with clothes and some pair of shoes to my name. No money. No dignity and a pregnancy that came with disease.

With the Ksh 3000 I had I went back home and my mother knew immediately I was with a child. My father hasn’t spoken to me since then, it’s been 2 years now. I’m still HIV positive. My son is still here and the 1 year I enjoyed life with a married man, I lost school time, I lost a boyfriend who is now working and another woman is enjoying what was to be mine. 

My girls let me tell you out right, no man will look at you when you’re HIV positive with a child even those who used to buy you 50 bob credit and the cheap bracelets. Many of you who are in my shoes, leave before your life becomes a wish. I wish someone had told me.

You call them sponsors, we called them sugar daddies. The media has made them popular. Most of my friends are gone. Some are really sick with HIV. Family members use me as a negative example. 

Women work hard. Get a man you can lift. Be thankful for what you have. Don’t be greedy.Stick to the 200 bob credit and watch it grow to 1000 bob and more.


My Advice – Ladies, please stop wearing your heart between your legs. Your happiness can be found there too. So, if you keep on this track it will become bottomless pit of despair. Stop dangling the key to ‘unhappiness’ in your lap. Take care!

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19 thoughts on “Sponsors/Sugar Daddies are killing a generation.

  1. There is just one word for this – CRUELTY.
    Older men especially Married men have been using Young Girls to give them a Kick more than alcohol or drugs can. And Girls are Ready to give their bodies up to be played with, just for “A Big Pocket Money” and “Shopping”.
    Its the Girls who need to be blamed for this grime in Society.
    And many wives taken their husbands for granted. They too must be enjoying with younger men, so don’t bother to keep an eye on their wavering sexist husbands.
    Its disgusting to hear this story. What more cruel punishment, than a young unmarried girl saddled with a child of no Father and a Disease. Its as good as being dead.

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    1. Cattie, you are right. I also blamed the girl too. But maybe the circumstance made her get their too and imagine how many girls this men ruin their lives. so many! I also agree with you on the side of married women who also do the same.
      The world has turned out to be very cruel and apparently some girls prefer to have that disease because apparently there’s a way to stay healthier with the virus in your body but live a lavish life. They would even get that abortion just to keep moving. Especially for the girls without supporting parents. I have read such stories. Am sure they are not stupid, it’s just ignorance and easy comfortably.

      Thank you for reading and commenting.

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      1. I know, that there are many girls out there who have No parents to care for them or are too poor. This is the Only way to Survive.
        I only detest it when College Girls do it, deliberately to earn more pocket money.

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  2. I am completely speechless!
    The problem with most young women these days is that they do not want to go through the process of getting to where you are supposed to be in life in good time. They want things here and now. It doesn’t work like that, patience pays in the end.
    It’s sad she was left with child and a disease but life must go on. She will teach others that will come after her to stay away from men who promise the world only to leave it shattered.
    Warm hugs to the write, it shall be well.
    Thank you for sharing.

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      1. I also understand the struggles she is facing behind this. It’s a hard pill to swallow when you share your truth self with people, they tend to form their own opinion no matter how much you tell the truth. I pray for this strong young lady because she is a true inspiration and with her sharing I know there will be countless young and maybe even older ladies lives she will spare.

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      2. I also can imagine the struggle she must be going through… but for her to be in university the parents might be struggling too.. and maybe she thought that would subtract some troubles from them… but anyways, we can stop them from doing what they have to do, we just won…But this is not the first case am reading…

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  3. Girls are all too quick to go for the material things; happy to be someone’s “side-piece” for clothes, money, jewelry, and other “gifts” – but they think nothing of the “gift that keeps on giving.”

    Let a woman in her 30s try to tell a young girl that she’s being used, and the girl screeches, “You’re just jealous of me! I’m ‘hawt’ and you’re not!” So, some of us women don’t bother trying to warn girls anymore.

    Girls don’t want to heed warnings, so… *SHRUG* – it’s hard to feel sorry for many of them.

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