The lady in waiting can have a little bit of power by sleeping with a man and enchanting him with her sexuality. She can also have a little bit of power by meeting a man’s desires, expectations and ideas of how his ideal woman should behave.
But she doesn’t have legitimate power, because she is giving 80 per cent and he is only giving 20 per cent.
The Queen has legitimate power because The Queen does not wait. She attracts a King who is willing to go the extra distance.
The lady in waiting does just that … waits and serves the needs of the prince so he is not displeased with her because if he is, the very horse he rode in and rescued her on is now heading in the opposite direction. She is terrified of that. The prince doesn’t have to stretch, because the princess depends on him. He has all the power because he knows how terrified she is that he will leave and never return. This is not legitimate power however, because it is derived from ego, not from loving awareness and a strong self-responsible will.
The Prince says all the right things … but he is looking good and going nowhere, attracting a princess who is crying in longing from her ivory tower as he regularly rides off into the distance, taking advantage of her open waiting heart. ‘Please love me’, she calls … ‘Keep waiting’, his silence tells her. She waits until she sees him again and he becomes more of an addiction than someone whom she can truly trust and feel safe to grow old with.
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