Book Review#5 ‘Why Men Love Bitches’ by Sherry Argov

I read this book for three reasons. Firstly, it was out of curiosity. Secondly, for experimental purposes and thirdly, the title was catchy.  So I spent the past few days learning about the bitch theory: How to be a bitch. The bitch lifestyle. What the bitch eats, sleeps, thinks. Go for the crotch or rip his heart out straight up.

But first. What the author mean by this term: Bitch

Bitch (noun)- A woman who won’t bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else’s opinion–be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it’s just one person’s opinion; therefore, it’s of no real importance. she doesn’t try to live up to anyone else’s standards- only her own. Because of this she relates to man very differently

The “new and improved” bitch is not a bad thing. She is a refined version of the proverbial, “old” bitch. She’s not abrasive or mean, nor does she nag to get what she wants. She speaks with her actions, and she’s only a bitch when she has to be.

According to some, the word derives from the first letters in the following phrase: B abe I n T otal C ontrol of H erself. The only higher crown, the only higher honor, is to be called a “High Maintenance Bitch.” It’s a sign of success, indicating that this is the woman the guy ends up keeping

Pretty great I’d say. I learned a lot from this book… that I will not be using. Why? Because I don’t want to be a “bitch.” I disagree strongly with a lot of points in here. Nice girl syndrome? Maybe. Some points were solid, I won’t do this book a dishonor and be oblivious to them but I believe you can be a “nice girl” and still be firm and strong. I believe you don’t need strategies and game plans in relationships. Trickery and a whole lot of other shenanigans to effect commitment. If you do then don’t be sorry when it feels like a lie. Because it is a lie. The problem wasn’t the advice and tips itself, but more about the context and how they projected the imagery of puppet and puppet master.

Sherry Argov went on. A bitch doesn’t need approvals. She has her own priorities ..her things are equally important for her…she knows who she is….she can take decisions for herself…she knows how to please herself…she doesn’t let her be taken for granted and much more of similar blah blah… so much of idealism that sometimes it was too overwhelming! Do such women exist?? Are such women actually someone a man would long for??

It’s an OK read. Some things are true and we all know about them. There are things which we would like to hold true and some are quite superficial and maybe a bit far from reality. It really depends on context, your background, perspective and so on! You won’t miss anything great if you don’t read it and if you do, it’s not going to change much in you (my personal view!!) just because you read this book!!! And if you get loved by a man because you are a “bitch”, you are one lucky woman! LOL

Few “bitchy” lines from the book:

“Anytime a woman competes with another woman she demeans herself.”

“He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him.”

“When you meet someone who is truly great, he makes you believe you can be great, too. This is the kind of relationship you want, and it’s the only kind of relationship worth having.”

“The most attractive quality of all is dignity.”

“The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be.”

“Men don’t respond to words. What they respond to is “no contact”.”

“Success in love isn’t about looks, it’s about attitude.”

“If someone else doesn’t like your confidence, that’s their problem.

“Why? You always come before they do, that’s why.”

“Men control the world, but women control the men.”

“If you can’t convince ’em, confuse ’em.”

“You can get away with saying much more with humor than you can with a straight face”

“The nice girl makes the mistake of being available all the time.”

“When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything.”

“It isn’t about looks; gorgeous women get dumped every day.”

“Don’t learn the tricks of the trade. Learn the trade.”

#liveandlearn

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