Do you ever feel like you’re not accomplishing everything that you want to get done? On my 18th birthday , I ran into my bedroom, closed the door and cried for an hour.
Why? I thought I had turned 18th and had not accomplishes anything in my life. Seriously. True story. I remember it so vividly. In retrospect, that notion seemed ridiculous. I was just 18. I was very young, Then again, similar thoughts ran across my mind when I turned 21, 25. I turned 28 last month and the same feelings came over me.
Do you ever feel like you’re not doing enough with your life? And what do you do when you fall into this trap of feeling like a failure?
This is what do;
1. I make a list of things you have accomplished
Oftentimes we forget our success and we probably have done more than we realize. A visual reminder of these accomplishments can do wonders for one’s confidence. Write down even the small accomplishments or things you might take for granted like graduating from college or owning a car….I write any little thing I felt proud doing it. And when I see all the things I have done, i never utter these words again “I haven’t accomplished anything.”
2. I remind myself that I should not compare myself to other people
The reality is that there will always be someone more successful than you, who is better looking than you and so on and forth. Letting envy rear its ugly head is unhealthy and detracts from your own accomplishments. I remind myself that my journey in life is unique and that I should not be defined by other people’s success.
3. I count my blessings
The other side of the coin is that there will always be someone else who is worse off than you. Someone else is less successful than you, makes less money than you and so on. As much as I complain about my life at times when things are tough, I make it a habit to be thankful each day. Gratitude is a great weapon to defeat discontentment.
4. I got my ultimate cheerleader
You may have friends and family members that may be the hard to please types. I know how this can make you feel. If you listen to them long enough and are surrounded by their negativity, it’s only natural that you buy into anything critical they are saying about you. At least have one friend that is your ultimate cheerleader. We all need that person that will say “I’m proud of you! You’re doing great! I believe in you”. Thank you boyfriend because that affirmation is always my lifeline. We all need that person who will always see the silver lining and tell us that the cup is half full. Don’t ever underestimate the power of moral support.
5. I focus my energy on helping others
Sharing this post is one way of how I have used my energy today. I believe that when you turn attention away from yourself, once in a while, you won’t dwell on what you feel are your own shortcomings.
If you are reading this..I hope it has helped you.